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- Three common ways people handle anger
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- “Other fellow always wrong” exacerbates the issue and is unlikely to solve it
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  Dean names the first common anger method: declare yourself right and the other
  absolutely wrong — easiest, common, personally confessed, and almost sure to
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  Chapter 14 — first anger method: I am right, the other is absolutely wrong;
  easiest path that exacerbates and rarely solves.
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# Anger Method One: The Other Is Always Wrong

**Author:** Dean Rush  
**Book:** *Flying Free* · **Chapter 14:** Think Straight – Stop Anger Now!  
**Full book:** [deanrush.net/downloads/flyingfreebook.md](https://deanrush.net/downloads/flyingfreebook.md)

## Context for the Reader

This chapter closes Section I by teaching how to stop anger from stealing recovery energy. Dean outlines three common methods of handling anger; this lesson is the first and most common.

This lesson exposes the “I am right / you are absolutely wrong” reflex — easy, frequent, and confessed by Dean as a thought process that could not be more wrong.

> Voice note: Everything under **Dean's excerpt** is Dean's original prose (lightly cleaned only). Sections marked **Biblical foundations**, **Scholar sidebar**, **Takeaways**, and **First-time learner** are enrichment for Asker / first readers — not Dean speaking.

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## Biblical foundations (preface)

Dean’s self-inclusion matters: the first method flatters the self. Scripture answers with humility, log-and-speck honesty, and refusal to win by declaring the other always wrong.

| Dean's claim | Scriptural undercarriage |
| --- | --- |
| Decide you are right and the other absolutely wrong | Why do you see the speck… but do not notice the log in your own eye? (Matthew 7:3–5) |
| Easiest and most common angry reaction | Pride goes before destruction (Proverbs 16:18); do not be wise in your own eyes (Proverbs 3:7) |
| That thought process could not be more wrong | God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble (James 4:6; 1 Peter 5:5) |
| Exacerbates the issue; unlikely to solve | A harsh word stirs up anger (Proverbs 15:1); answer softly |

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## Dean's excerpt

### Method one

I have found there are normally three ways people handle the anger. One common method of handling anger is to determine that you are right and the person to whom you are directing your aggressive thoughts is absolutely wrong. That seems to be the easiest and most commonly used method of reacting with anger. That method is used by a person (sometimes me) who could not be more wrong in their thought process. The “other fellow is always wrong” reaction will only continue to exacerbate the issue, and is unlikely to solve the problem.

> **Scholar sidebar — Easy is not true**  
> Matthew 7:3–5 dismantles absolute other-blame. Proverbs 3:7 and 16:18 warn the self-wise. James 4:6 keeps grace on the humble side of the fight. Dean’s parenthetical “sometimes me” is the pastoral key — teach the method without exempting the teacher.

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## Takeaways

1. **Three methods.** Dean frames anger handling as patterns, not one mood.
2. **Method one defined.** I am right; the target of my aggression is absolutely wrong.
3. **Easiest path.** Common because it protects the ego immediately.
4. **Sometimes me.** Dean refuses the clean outsider pose.
5. **Makes it worse.** Unlikely to solve; sure to exacerbate.

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## First-time learner

### What is Dean saying in one sentence?
The most common anger method is deciding you are right and the other person is absolutely wrong — easy, frequent, personally tempting, and unlikely to solve anything.

### Why does Dean include himself?
So readers cannot treat the warning as only for “angry people” somewhere else.

### Key verses to read with this lesson
- **Matthew 7:3–5** — Log and speck.
- **Proverbs 3:7** — Not wise in your own eyes.
- **Proverbs 16:18** — Pride before destruction.
- **James 4:6** — God opposes the proud.
- **Proverbs 15:1** — Soft answer vs harsh word.

### A simple practice
In one current conflict, write two columns: “What I insist they did wrong” / “What I may be refusing to see.” Fill the second column with at least one honest item.

### How this feeds Ask Dean
Seed material for: *What is Dean’s first method of handling anger? Why is it easiest? Why does it fail?*